How to Explore Anal Masturbation
Yes, anal masturbation is a thing—and you should definitely try it.
All the commotion around partnered anal play is fine and dandy until you're single AF or a solo sex queen missing anal Os. Or, ya know, it's the middle of a global pandemic and social distancing orders are keeping you from shaking hands with anyone else...let alone exploring your back door with them. No doubt, partnered anal play is tricky from 6 feet away.
What Is Anal Masturbation, Exactly?
It's pretty much what it sounds like. Anal masturbation is self-pleasuring that specifically incorporates your butt in some way, shape, or form. "External stimulation, stimulation of the rim, internal stimulation, and self-penetration all qualify,"
What Are the Benefits of Anal Masturbation?
The short answer? The benefit of anal masturbation is the same point of any sexual play: Pleasure! After all, the anal opening and anal canal walls are rich with nerve endings practically begging to be stimulated.
For folks who eventually want to explore partnered anal play, the benefits of solo anal go way beyond that, often, couples try to do too much too soon—immediately rushing into anally masturbating with a penis or dildo.
But the anal sphincter is a muscle, and just as you train your other muscles to contract and relax, you need to train your sphincter. "Solo anal play allows you to practice relaxing those muscles" and to incrementally increase to the size of whatever is going in (that is, if your anal masturbation includes penetration—because it doesn't need to),
"This comes in handy during partnered (and multi-partnered) anal play and increases the likelihood it will feel good," Because, in case you didn't already know, anal sex isn’t suppose to HURT!!!
"During solo anal sex, you don't have to be concerned about anyone else, so you can completely move at your own pace without feeling any pressure to move faster or perform comfort [aka pretend you're enjoying it] for a partner,"
1. Stock up on lube.
"The butt does not self-lubricate like the vaginal canal," lube is what makes anal play so damn pleasurable in the first place!
Without lube, skin-on-skin and silicone-on-skin can create a lot of uncomfortable friction that can cause micro-tears and fissures in the anal canal. Ouch. "Beyond this, the slickness of lube will help with sensation, ease of insertion, and seamless movement in and out of the body," she says. So you always want to ensure that you have an ample supply of lube when playing anally to reduce the friction and increase the pleasurable sensation of glide.
Before choosing a lube, you'll want to think about how, exactly, you're planning to play anally. Most high-quality anal sex toys are made of silicone and silicone toys are not compatible with silicone lube, because it will brake down the materials of the toy.
So if you're planning to use a toy: Opt for a water-based lube.
If you're not using a toy: A silicone-based lube (which is generally thicker) is best.
2. Start with your go-to moves.
"Before you even think about touching your bum, turn yourself on doing what you usually do to get in the mood," start there.
In fact, if you're someone who usually goes for multiple orgasms (hey, some of us are one-and-done summers, and that's fine too!), We suggest bringing yourself to orgasm once or twice before even venturing to the back door. "The more turned on you are before you touch your butt, the better,"
3. Experiment with anal massage.
You don't have to go mining for treasure inside your anus to hit pleasure gold. As rimming (aka oral-anal sex) has shown anyone who's been lucky enough to try it: External anal play can feel pretty damn orgasmic. "The anal sphincter has over 4,000 nerve endings, which means even the outside of your anus has a high capacity for pleasure,"We recommend padding your fingertip with lube and massaging/tracing/touching your anal sphincter. Try circling the hole, moving over it diagonally, tapping it, and rubbing it until you find what feels best for you.
4. Feel good? Graduate to anal fingering.
As you're massaging your hole, you'll literally be able to feel the hole start to relax and open. So, if you feel inclined, go ahead and nudge a finger in. Anal fingering is a great way to introduce your bum and all its peachy glory to penetration. "Fingers are free and you can manipulate them more than you can a sex toy, so they are a great place to start your solo anal journey,"
To try anal fingering, first: Add more lube. Then, breathing deeply, begin to gently, and slowly push your finger inside. "Some people like an in-and-out motion while some people will find that rotating or swirling their finger along the inside feels good," "If you stroke toward the front of your body, you may even indirectly hit your G-Spot, which can be a lot of fun!"
During your first anal fingering session, you probably want to stick with just one finger. But next time, "feel free to experiment with adding more fingers if you enjoy girth and a feeling of fullness,"
5. Or bust out a toy.
Butt plugs. Anal beads ,Suction-cup dildos. As long as the toy has a flared base to keep it safely anchored outside the body, it's fair game for anal masturbation. While you don't get the same feedback with a toy as you do while anal fingering, some people prefer the sensation of a toy to the bony feel of their hands or simply prefer it over self-penetration.
If you enjoy the feeling of fullness, opt for a non-vibrating butt plug
If you enjoy an in-and-out sensation, try a dildo with a suction cup base, You can use your hand to move the toy in and out of your bum. Or, you can plop it on a bathtub ledge or shower wall to stimulate partnered anal play. Nifty!
6. Add your other erogenous zones.
While orgasm from anal stimulation alone is absolutely possible, the most common way vulva-owners orgasm is through clitoral contact. That's why we recommend layering clitoral, G-spot, or nipple stimulation on top of the anal stimulation. "Don't limit yourself to just the anus! The more erogenous zones you can stimulate at once, the better,"
Just remember: "You never want to put a finger that has been in your butt back into your vagina, "The transmission of bacteria from back to front can be harmful, even if it is your own body." (In turn, it could cause a yeast infection or bacterial vaginosis.) One workaround is to wear a glove when you're touching your butt, and taking it off before migrating north. Or, using your left hand for your front-hole, and right hand for your back.
7. Bring what you learned to partner play.
There's no reason that anal masturbation has to lead to butt stuff during partnered play. But if you enjoy anal masturbation and want to incorporate your peach into your partnered activity, have at it.
"Now that you know what you like anally, you'll be better equipped to guide your partner through a pleasurable anal experience." Your own peach, as they say, is your O-yster...
